I've dealt with this before. It's aggravating for sure. You can use tweezers to pick the sponge out from between/around your zoas, it will come off pretty easily. I haven't found any way to actually kill it, but a toothbrush will get a lot of it off of your rocks. I have some of it in my 72g and by using a toothbrush I can keep it confined to one spot on my rocks. What I do know is that exposure to air will not kill it, neither will a hydrogen peroxide dip.
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