I tested my water today after doing 2 small water changes over about 4 days, and cut back on adding stuff and now my levels are good. I did not test the ph, because I think 8.0 was fine(but I will just to be sure). My dkh is down to about 13 and my calcium is up to about 430. Sometimes I kill this thing with love. I need to leave it and let it do it's thing to some degree.

I'm also getting a 2 part calcium supplement, and cut out a bunch of the stuff I was adding.
Thanks everyone for your tips!