What should you tell your spouse?

[BSJF]

What do you think your spouse should know about your saltwater hobby and what is just a plain secret?

Here's mine:
Know - There will be a very large piece of furniture right where you wanted to put the TV
Secret - How much it cost to buy and then whether I sold it or just gave it away.

[Europhyllia]

know: there's a ton of stuff plugged into it and it probably contributes significantly to the electric bill
secret: total cost/value of the big tank (I don't even really want to add it up myself)

[Scream311]

Know : yea that puddle of water in the Kitchen was from the RO System

Secret : How Much Money is Left Over in My Bank Account after "Every Pay Check"

[Europhyllia]

eek Kristy is probably reading all of this and able to predict divorce potential % :o

[Scream311]

eek Kristy is probably reading all of this and able to predict divorce potential % :o

Lol well I hope that Lisa and I made a Good First Impression on Kristy. :angel:

[Kristy]

Actually, Kristy is reading this and trying to think if I have any secrets from my spouse...:shades::wink_smile:

None that I can think of! :angel:

[Mr Cob]

Know: ...your dining room will be the start of our new business and it's just one 85g

Secret: ...more tanks are coming : )

[RayAllen]

Know: shes learned several things through our years together. Married 7 years this coming May, and I have had at least one aquarium the entire time.

Secrets: when it comes to my hobby there are no secrets. Besides; I let her do the check booking and account managment (hate looking at numbers). I do not even know how much my check is unless I ask. Direct Deposit...

[alton]

Know: Looks good most of the time

Secret: Everything else

[Squiers007]

Know: Well, the wife is also a Marine Biologist so she pretty much knows everything about this hobby already...

Secret: My plans to upgrade the tank whenever we move again. Goodbye 75, Hello 215 brick!!! (Oh, and Jarob, don't go spilling the beans!)

[Regric25]

Know: Everything
Secret: Nothing

[jrsatx20]

Know: yes its a complete system don't need anything else to get it going

Secret: everything that came with the tank will be upgraded.

[Europhyllia]

I also think there is difference between just not mentioning the dirty details and outright withholding info. ;)

[hobogato]

Know: Everything
Secret: Nothing

absolutely. nothing is worth compromising my integrity or trust - not even a little. even though a nice fish tank comes pretty close :D

[jroescher]

Know: What happened to the aquarium while Kristy was in Hawaii.
Secret: What we got together and ... nevermind ...

[RayAllen]

absolutely. nothing is worth compromising my integrity or trust - not even a little. even though a nice fish tank comes pretty close :D

My thoughts exactly

[BSJF]

I'm not into compromising intergrity or trust either. If he really had to know, I would tell him my secret. However, then he would tell me everything related to his hobby I would give him strange looks too. Takes the fun out of it for me anyway. We established budgets long ago for this type of fun and I really don't care how or where he spends his fun money as long as he doesn't come begging for more $$.

[Europhyllia]

lol

Gosh yes, like I said: there's a difference between actively witholding information from somebody that wants to know or just not mentioning every little bit of info.
I trust that in the big picture he makes good decisions when he's traveling and taking care of himself without him having to report every time he eats a burger and he trusts me that I make good decisions with my stuff.

[alton]

Hey I look at it like she spends money on our kids and I spend money on our kids (mine just happen to be my fish and mine don't complain)

[kkiel02]

Knows-Too much
Secret- That Im going to try and squeeze every inch she will let me out of the fish room. She wants a foot of the tank inside the fishroom, Im hoping for 6 inches and that she doesnt find the tape measure.

[allan]

Knows: I've got a tank that doesn't require any more investing.


Secret: I am planning building a metal halide canopy.

[Teeb]

Knows: Baby, I just spent $175 plumbing a 40 gallon fish tank.
Secret: I need $600 more for lights.

[Europhyllia]

I just thought of something last night.

Another confession.

Sometimes when he says stuff like: "When did you get that? You didn't tell me you got that."

I respond with "What? Of course I told you! You NEVER listen to me!"

I find this to be highly effective. Guys just tune us out anyway, might as well use it for something practical. :D

So there. That's how bad I am!

[Big_Pun]

knows: way too much
secret: her FOWLR will be a reef in 6 months

[tonyydeee]

since im only 16 and not married. ill be using my mom :D

know: I spend all my money (and a bunch of hers :p ) on my tanks
secret: I keep my lunch money to spend on my tank >:D

[allan]

I just thought of something last night.

Another confession.

Sometimes when he says stuff like: "When did you get that? You didn't tell me you got that."

I respond with "What? Of course I told you! You NEVER listen to me!"

I find this to be highly effective. Guys just tune us out anyway, might as well use it for something practical. :D

So there. That's how bad I am!

Hah, had to read this one twice.

Gloria will see something new and ask me when did I get that... My answer...

"I KNEW YOU WOULD GET MAD!!!"

She shakes her head and calls me by nickname, hodido or something similar.

[Pennies2Cents]

Knows: it was his idea to get into this hobby! :)

Secret: Im gonna get a new tank that he will be setting up soon... :shades:



(oops) i guess its not so secret anymore... lol... Luv you Rosco! :blushing::heart::wub:

[BSJF]

You guys are a hoot!


Sometimes when he says stuff like: "When did you get that? You didn't tell me you got that."

I respond with "What? Of course I told you! You NEVER listen to me!"

I find this to be highly effective. Guys just tune us out anyway, might as well use it for something practical. :D



This works with clothes too, except by the time his notices it has been ages since you got it and when you are my age you can't remember if you told him or not either.

[Europhyllia]

except by the time his notices it has been ages since you got it and when you are my age you can't remember if you told him or not either.
Yeah, same here. There's a 50:50 chance that I really did tell him. And the other 50% when I didn't bother to report it I figure it's fair game to use the same line as payback for not listening to all the interesting stuff I tell him all the time. ;)

[jlh81]

Knows: It takes a couple of things to keep it going.

Secret: Knowing how much those things cost. : )

[jroescher]

I tend to stockpile stuff for future projects. Whenever something new is noticed, I only have to say it was bought a long time ago, I'm just now using it. Everything is shipped to the office, so no UPS truck showing up spoiling the surprise.

[alton]

I tend to stockpile stuff for future projects. Whenever something new is noticed, I only have to say it was bought a long time ago, I'm just now using it. Everything is shipped to the office, so no UPS truck showing up spoiling the surprise.

I like this one along with I got it with store credit.

[jpond83]

postin can be self incriminating. She will never know